60 year old Bedridden woman cries out over husband’s attempt to sell home
A 60-year-old woman, Mrs Sandra Ishola, has accused her estranged husband, Mr David Ishola, of planning to sell their house at Gowon Estate in Egbeda, Lagos, where she currently lives with her children.
Sandra, who hails from Benin City in Edo State, said her husband had abandoned her and their children for about 20 years.
The mother of six stated that she had shouldered the responsibility for their upkeep despite her paralysed legs – a condition she has been battling for years. She is also unable to sit, thereby having to lie down.
She lamented that David ejected her from a house they were both living with children some years ago and relocated them to the building at Gowon Estate.
The woman said she took a loan to build some structures on the premises and rented them out so she could raise money to feed herself and the children.
She said, “He has threatened to send me and the tenants away. The rent is what I also use to pay my children’s school fees. One of them is a student at the University of Lagos. But now, he wants to drive all us away and sell the building. He wants me out because I’m not from his place. I’m from Edo State and he is from Ekiti State.
“I left our first house because his family didn’t want an Edo woman to inherit his wealth. When I met him, he was living in a room in Benin before we came to Lagos and moved to a two-room apartment. He had not built any house then.”
The woman alleged that her husband could no longer tolerate the state of her health and he decided to marry another wife.
She said she inscribed ‘this house is not for sale’ on the frontage of the compound after several people confided in her his alleged plan to sell the house.
It was learnt that the case was taken to Femi Falana’s Chambers and the Office of the Public Defender where a mediation process took place between the embattled couple.
During the mediation process which took place on April 8, 2019 at the OPD office, it was agreed that David would pay a monthly upkeep of N5,000 and that the tenants should vacate the property on or before December 31, 2019.
It was also agreed that Sandra should continue to live in the said property and that it must not be sold as long as she resided there.
The woman, however, said she was not given a chance to express herself during the mediation.
“He went there to settle them. When we went there, they didn’t allow me to talk. In fact, I was made to sign the agreement under duress. He has left me for over 20 years and married another woman. He should let me and my children take ownership of the building,” she added.
But the OPD Director, Mrs Olayinka Adeyemi, said the verdict given was absolutely fair and there was no form of compulsion.
She said, “The mediation took place in the presence of their children and there wasn’t any acrimony or force during the process. The reason Mr Ishola was asked to pay N5,000 to her monthly is because he also is a pensioner in his 70s with no source of income.
“Both of them actually agreed that the tenants had become a nuisance; they were no longer paying so it was an opportunity to get them out. I don’t know what must have transpired thereafter but it was agreed that the tenants were becoming uncontrollable and the woman who is invalid could not control them.”
“We cannot force anybody to sign anything so I am surprised that she is raising allegations of compromise. During the mediation, she was given all the time to talk and express herself because of her condition. If she is no longer satisfied with the agreement, she can reconvene. It is a property issue and we don’t handle such; we only did the mediation because of her condition.”
David, in a telephone interview with our correspondent, described Sandra’s allegations as false. According to him, he has no intention to sell the house or drive her away.
He said, “I am not selling any house; I have written a letter and told Falana that I am not selling the house. My house is not for sale. Her action is getting me annoyed day by day. What did she see that gave her the impression that I want to sell the house and why should I drive her away with her condition?
“If she is paying the last child’s school fees, she wants to do it. I trained five of them up till university and you cannot tell me five of them cannot gather resources to train her (the last child). Will I kill myself at over 70 by taking care of her? The children are old enough to take care of her without me spending a kobo.”
Commenting on the case, the executive Director of Jashabel Touch–A-Heart Foundation, Mrs Favour Benson, said Sandra’s case was pathetic, adding that she knew about it about four months ago.
She said, “We have been trying to get help for her. I feel if she’s given proper medical attention she can walk or sit again. She’s suffering so much in the hands of her supposed husband. I appeal to government and generous Nigerians to come to her aid.”